1,001 Sayings and Deeds of the Prophet
Allah, it is clear, was extremely concerned that His Messenger be sexually fulfilled, and in so doing broke two taboos from what the hadiths and the Koran refer to as the period of ignorance i.e. the time before Islam. Allah’s casual dismissal of two abiding moral imperatives would prove particularly detrimental to both the physical and emotional wellbeing of children, to this day.
The first God-sanctioned travesty of the Prophet, which you should already have read about in the hadiths concerning the union of the child Aisha to a man old enough to be her grandfather, significantly lowered the age of implied consent, thereby making female children as young as nine legal prey for pedophiles.
The second breaking of a moral imperative from the time of ignorance would deny many an orphan boy a home and someone to call father. Again, it all had to do with God's Messenger lusting after a female who would ordinarily have been morally out reach.
The Prophet was already married to six women, not counting concubines and slave-girls, who could, depending on the circumstances satisfy any of his sexual needs, when he walked in on his daughter-in-law Zaynab when she was almost naked and just had to have her.
During the time of ignorance, to encourage the adoptions of sons who had lost their fathers, men adopted orphaned boys who then became part of the adopted father’s lineage and his de facto progeny i.e. his heir. Because laws and traditions from the time of ignorance did not distinguish between an adopted and a natural born son, the taboo against marrying your natural born son's wife extended to an adopted descendant.
Until Allah changed the rules so that His Messenger could add his cousin and former daughter-in-law to his collection of wives, concubines and slave-girls, orphan boys were a rarity in the Middle East.
Allah not only demoted adopted sons, thereby denying them an inheritance, but also made it a crime that would see the perpetrator in Hell, to call your adopted father, father, even when you did not know who your real father was.
To avoid His Messenger being embarrassed by having a young man, whose wife he had taken in marriage after him, call him father, Allah created the greatest disincentive for men to take in orphan boys and raise them as their own.
After Allah made what was taboo during the time ignorance at thing of the past, and after Zaid prudently divorced Zaynab, God's Messenger was free to marry the object of his lust having relegated her former husband to no more than an acquaintance for whom he provided room and board.
Allah had again redefine morality to satisfy His Messenger's baser instincts and in the process made life more complicated and at lot worse for others. This was not as significant as making taking the life and property of an unbeliever morally acceptable, but significant nonetheless.
Some of the hadiths pertaining to Allah's watershed changes concerning adopted sons.
Abu Hudhaifa, one of those who fought the battle of Badr with Allah's Apostle, adopted Salim as his son and married his niece Hind bint Al-Wahd bin Utba to him and Salim was a freed slave of an Ansari woman. Allah's Apostle also adopted Zaid as his son.
In the Pre-Islamic period of ignorance the custom was that, if one adopted a son, the people would call him by the name of the adopted-father [from] whom he would inherit as well, till Allah revealed: "Call them (adopted sons) By (the names of) their fathers." (33:5)
Narrated Abdullah bin Umar:
We used not to call Zaid bin Haritha the freed slave of Allah's Apostle except Zaid bin Muhammad till the Qu'anic Verse was revealed: "Call them (adopted sons) by (the names of) their fathers. That is more than just in the Sight of Allah." (33:5)
Narrated Anas bin Malik:
The Verse: "But you did hide in your mind that which Allah was about to make manifest." (33:37) was revealed concerning Zainab bint Jahsh and Zaid bin Haritha.
The Prophet's adopted son would die in one of the innumerable bloody pitiless battles to convert the people of the Peninsula and beyond. God's Messenger ordered that the women who were mourning Zaid's passing a little too loudly be silenced, but that proved impossible.
When the news of the martyrdom of Zaid bin Haritha, Ja'far and Abdullah bin Rawaha came, the Prophet sat down looking sad, and I was looking through the chink of the door.
A man came and said, "O Allah's Apostle! The women of Ja'far," and then he mentioned their crying.
The Prophet (p.b.u.h) ordered him to stop them from crying.
The man went and came back and said, "I tried to stop them but they disobeyed."
The Prophet (p.b.u.h) ordered him for the second time to forbid them.
He went again and came back and said, "They did not listen to me, (or "us": the sub-narrator Muhammad bin Haushab is in doubt as to which is right). "
Aisha added: The Prophet said, "Put dust in their mouths."
I said (to that man), "May Allah stick your nose in the dust (i.e. humiliate you). By Allah, you could not (stop the women from crying) to fulfill the order, besides you did not relieve Allah's Apostle from fatigue."