Women and the Koran
Women As Fields to Be Ploughed
He also encouraged the accumulation of wealth in the pursuit of that commodity and made women beholden to the men who spent part of their wealth on their acquisition and for the continued provision of the basic necessities of life.
How were women expected to repay the generous men who put food on their table, a roof over their heads and protected them from other men? Sex comes to mind.
Beholden women will not necessarily see providing sex as payment for their room and board as the appropriate thing to do. Anyone who has ever paid a restaurant bill in the hope that sex will follow will understand this. For Allah, this ungrateful attitude was unacceptable. Not only that, a man might decide to take what he felt was his due, what he thought he had bought and paid for, and be punished for rape under pre-Islamic laws and traditions.
To perhaps avoid a man being accused of raping his wife if she declined his request for intimacy, God’s Messenger received a revelation from Allah making it impossible for a woman (one has to assume a married woman) to be raped. For to deny the ploughman, in the following verse, would be going against Allah's Will, not something you do without risking spending eternity on fire in a vengeful god's Hell.
2:223 Your women are a tillage for you. So get to your tillage whenever you like. Do good for yourselves, fear Allah and know that you shall meet Him. And give good news to the believers.
A companion of the Prophet, not God's Messenger himself, said that what Allah also meant was that a woman had to submit to whatever sexual position demanded by her husband to avoid having a child with a birth defect.
Jews used to say: "If one has sexual intercourse with his wife from the back, then she will deliver a squint-eyed child." So this Verse was revealed: "Your wives are a tilth unto you; so go to your tilth when or how you will." (2.223)."
It was good for you but was it good for her? Women as fields to be ploughed!!! What if the field is busy making dinner?
Ali reported God's messenger as saying, "When a man calls his wife to satisfy his desire she must go to him even if she is occupied at the oven."
What if the field doesn’t want to be ploughed? What if the field has a headache? For the answer to this question we must return to an already quoted verse, paying particular attention to when a wife is deserving of a beating.
4:34 … And those of them that you fear might rebel, admonish them and abandon them in their beds and beat them. Should they obey you, do not seek a way of harming them; for Allah is Sublime and Great!
If a beating doesn’t get her to change her mind and consent to sexual intercourse, then Allah will send an angel to try to convince her.
Narrated Abu Huraira:
Allah's Apostle said: "If a husband calls his wife to his bed (i.e. to have sexual relation) and she refuses and causes him to sleep in anger, the angels will curse her till morning."
Being cursed by an angel (almost the equivalent of being cursed by Allah) is not a trivial matter, as you may now appreciate.
Islamic scholars and learned clerics have long struggled with how much of a beating a wife should be forced to endure, and whether the Koran allows for the use of implements in the beating of one’s spouse.
According to God’s Messenger, the beating should not be severe and yes, implements are allowed but should not be bigger than a toothbrush. The Prophet was said to be brushing his teeth when he answered this question. The toothbrush in question was probably some kind of reed, therefore a small whip would probably be allowed.